How to Love Somebody

1-Love is a feeling. It takes time to develop and when you love someone, you'll know it. The moment that you realize you love someone may be at a party, during a fight, or during a kiss you are having with them. Don't force yourself to think that you're in love with someone. You'll know it when it hits you. Be patient and enjoy the moments that you have now without the "I love you."

2-Listen. Take time to understand their thoughts, their worries, their concerns, their opinions. What's a real relationship without the effort of understanding each other? And when listening, don't interrupt.

3-Be kind and light-hearted. Don't be a drama king/queen by saying things like "If I didn't have you, I'd kill myself" or anything like that. Use common sense; don't scare the heck out of your lover.

4-Cheer the other person up when they're feeling down. Be sensitive to their feelings.

5-Spend time together. Have special intentions for each other... it should come naturally.

6-If you start getting sick of the person, ask yourself why. If it's because they spend every waking moment with you, calmly explain that you need a little more space. Don't let them drive you crazy!

7-Compliment them. Encourage them. Criticizing and trying to change your lover will complicate everything. Remember why you loved that person in the first place. If you really feel like something about them bothers you, talk to them about it. If it's just something in their personality, don't be in a relationship with them; it's not fair to them to be involved with someone that's controlling or picky.

8-Appreciate their quirks and natural behavior and enjoy them for they are part of the unique person they are.

9-Try not to argue about stupid little things that don't really matter in the long run. All it does is make both of you irritable and distant. If you're really bothered by something they do or say, tell them straight out; don't play stupid mind games.

10-If you do happen to argue, cool off, and when you're ready, talk about it, and apologize. Even if you don't think it's worth apologizing about, it may be to her, and even if it isn't to her, it still shows that you care more than not. It frees both of you up so you won't be tied down by hurt feelings.

11-Spark ignites love but Effort keeps love burning brightly.

12-Share every little joy and sadness. Honesty bonds the heart together, Deceit leaves a crack forever.